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Saturday, 16 June 2012

Independent


Recently, I just feel that I am not independent as I used to be. Independent in some cases which I wish I would be. In some cases I wish I don't need any hand to help.

As an example: I used to go wherever I go by myself, since I lived in a city which I quiet know where to go and how to be there. And vice versa, from the first time I moved to this small town after marriage, of course the habit change. I don't know about this town, so I have no dare to go alone to a certain street. But Alhamdulillaah, Allah bless me with a super extra great husband whom I adore, who will always be ready to accompany and pick me around :D

Then now it was not my main case any longer, coz my husband almost always grant my request as long as he's able to do it for me.

Still stand still, one or two or more cases exist and are responsible for the feeling I own now: Feeling kinda dependent :(

Do you know how bad it is to feel dependent? To do things which we are actually able to do, but we must wait for other person *or people* to accomplish them for us. It's really bittersweet. Bitter bitter but sweet *halah :p

That's why, in my era of being a great student, when I got some tasks from my teacher or lecturer, I myself prefer individual work to group work. Doesn't mean I couldn't work in a team. But more like I am kind of woman who has less trust to some people in doing things which I thought I could do myself *winkwink*

Well yeah. The point is: if I can be much more satisfied and 'allayed' of the works I do, then why I should I depend others to do that? :D

The only answer of mine is: Because I have enough respect to share. That's it :)

35 comments:

  1. kayanya aku juga tidak se independent seperti sebelum menikah, ah but i enjoy it. on some occasion ketidakmandirian itu tidak apa2, manja sama pasangan misalnya. tapi di luar itu baru deh jangan :)

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    1. tepat. Malah rugi kalo ga manja sama pasangan ya mbak hehe..

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  2. I like independent girl :D but human can't stand lonely without partner :D

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    1. sure. But this is far far away from talking about partner, anyway ;)

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    2. partner that I means that life partner :D

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    3. yes yes, like husband and wife kan ya :D

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  3. Luar Biasa...

    Nice blog and i Like this... !

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  4. Kunjungan malam. O ya, jangan lupa follow back ya? Saya sudah jadi follower #132 thanks.

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  5. yaps independent woman in the best

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  6. yep dong, kl apa-apa bisa sendiri, enakan begitu kan :D
    dekor nya kereennn lho ...

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  7. hip hip hura to independen women.. kwokwokwokwokwo

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  8. It was really a good moment to say this and it was really proud of to have such a good husband who support your activities. Congratulations

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    1. thank you so much kang asep..

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  9. Nyeraaaaahhh!!bahasa inggris semua nih? transleett mana transleett >.<

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    1. Wahahahha... ternyata ada temennya, Aku gak ngerti blass. Bahasa inggrise nol guede :D

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    2. heheheh gtranslate gih :p

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  10. Intinya independent women itu bagus. Itu aja. Gak tau kalo bhs inggris beginian.

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  11. *wink-wink
    yaa kalau bisa sendiri, kenapa enggak?
    kalau nggak bisa boleh dong minta bantuan *hihihi

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    1. yoiyoi.. postingan ini penuh #kode mbak sebetulnya :p

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  12. yuhu, wanita independen memang yang the best :D :D
    meski memang gak 100% bisa hidup sendiri ye :P

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    1. yoiih. Namanya juga manusia, makhluk sosial. Idup sendiri ntar siapa yg nolongin saya ngangkat lemari :p

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  13. Nice blog! :)
    My friend ever said that once she got married, she became more dependent, turning swiftly from being an independent woman who does everything by herself into a helpless person. Now this is the second story I know, then... But I think dependency can only be harmful in certain cases, such as being dependent on certain things (money maybe) to feel happy, or being dependent to other people to start something which can actually be started by ourselves..

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    1. I feel the way your friend feels :D

      Yup, there's no reason to depend our happiness to any single person or thing. Allah is the only reason to be happy if we wanna have a long-lasting happiness :)

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  14. Kayaknya template ini udah bagus deh di mata.. tidak terlalu silau ^._.^

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  15. as a comparison, I am as a man certainly proud to have an independent's wife. so fully support you to be the one.
    But the man remain as a man, that would be proud if the woman respect him. so, you shold make an equilibrium of that.

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    1. for some situation in my marriage life, I almost always put my husband in my number 1 list of asking help, even when I think I am able to do that. Sometimes it was just to make sure that I have already been marriage :p

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  16. I, as well, desire to be independent. In this case, especially in terms of finance. I know I have a husband who supports me financially. But I also realize things happen -- spouse's illness, spouse's death, etc. When any of that happens, I want to be able to stand up and give help for others and for myself.

    Kalau untuk pulsa HP + buat nge-net, Kk' kadang masih minta beliin suami. Tapi untuk keperluan yang lebih pribadi (misal: bedak), kok rasanya malu. Padahal suami pernah protes juga, kenapa selama ini Kk' gak pernah minta apa-apa dari suami (contoh paling sederhana misalnya baju). Every one has their own independent/dependent sides sepertinya, ya :)

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    1. you are just like my mom kak.. She also thinks that way. It's kinda big NO to buy her-own-self stuffs with pak zamhur's money hehe..

      Yess, setuju sekali kak. Every one has their own independent/dependent sides :)

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